The Key To Success Is In Your Own Hands

Azugbene Solomon

No one was born without a talent or gift. We were all born with special talents or gifts necessary for our destined success.

But the problem with us is that we’re lazy to explore our talents.

Don’t expect anyone to spoon-feed you in order to show your talent. We need to identify with our talents and do something about them.

Instead of watching yourself in the mirror singing, why don’t you take your gift out there and have it spotted by music producers?

Most of us miss our golden opportunities by not taking chances when there are competitions. Why not take a bold step and contest with others to test your worth?

You must try not to fail, but don’t fail to try. An opportunity comes to us like a train and once you miss it, you might not catch it again. Our talents and gifts are hidden in our lives like gold and diamonds.

If we don’t mine them out, we’ll remain in a state of poverty. Some of us are naturally talented, but we need formal training to polish our skills so that we can shine.

When you choose to bury your talent, expect to harvest nothing in your life.

But when you sell your talent to the world, expect to harvest wealth and prosperity.

Nobody was born to be a spectator of successful people.

You too have been wired with the necessary tools to attain your own success.

Let’s break out of our cocoon of self-pity and start chasing our dreams. It’s time to work hard to realise our dreams.

The definition of “success” is different for each of us, depending on our personal and professional goals and aspirations. What is universal about success, however, is that it is our own responsibility. Too often people blame their lack of success on external factors:

“My company didn’t give me enough training.”
“My lead list is really weak.”
“My prospects just aren’t buying.”

Remember, it is not somebody else’s responsibility to make you successful, and it is nobody else’s fault if you fail. Come to terms with these facts and you’ll be well on your way to achieving the success you desire. Write down your goals (both immediate and long-term), create a list of action items that will help you reach these goals, and keep yourself in check.

Don’t pressured yourself by other people’s success

As people, we each have different destinations and this means we cannot travel the same road. What if your route is not the usual one that everyone else has taken?

As someone who loves helping others, have you thought about volunteering your services at non-profit organisations?

I think this may steer you in the direction you should be in.

Do not be pressured by other people’s success, because every tree grows at its own pace.

Some trees grow faster than others, but what is important is that they all eventually bear fruit. Please don’t give up on life.

5 Ways To Stop Pressuring Yourself By Other People’s Success

Jealousy is a normal emotion that everyone experiences. If you’re not careful, however, jealousy can grow into resentment and bitterness. And those destructive emotions could lead to a vicious downward spiral.

I’ve seen this happen countless times in my therapy office. Clients feel as though they’re not measuring up in life because they can’t compete with their friends and co-workers. Soon, they grow consumed with hostility because they feel like they’re not getting their fair share.

Social media seems to amplify resentment. Spend two minutes scrolling through Facebook and it’s easy to become convinced your friends are happier, healthier, and wealthier as they post their latest vacation photos and announce their good fortune. But studies show envying your friends on social media leads to depression.

Whether you envy a co-worker who got a promotion, or you’re resentful that your boss drives a car you can’t afford, resenting other people’s success is bad for your health, your relationships, and your career. It’ll drain your mental strength and hold you back from reaching your greatest potential.

Here are five ways to stop resenting other people’s success:

1. Stop comparing yourself to other people.

It’s easy to look at social media and think, “My family doesn’t have that much fun together,” or “My house isn’t nearly as nice as my friends’ homes.” But life isn’t meant to be a competition.

Drawing comparisons between yourself and other people is like comparing apples and oranges. Your journey is unique and it’s important to honor your individuality.

Whenever you catch yourself comparing your life to someone else’s life, remind yourself you’re not in a race. Your job is to do your best with what you’ve been given, regardless of what those around you are doing.

2. Reframe your scarcity mindset.

Thinking opportunities are scarce leads to a “Lord of the Flies” mentality. That’s why companies try to convince you products are in short-supply—so you’ll gobble them up before anyone else does.

But, just because your neighbor is wealthy doesn’t mean he’s taking money away from you. And a co-worker’s promotion doesn’t mean you can’t have a good job too. You may need to look at other companies or other departments, but there’s more than one perfect job out there.

It’s easy to get caught up into thinking that everything is a once in a lifetime opportunity or that other people’s success means you can’t succeed too. But in reality, very few things in life have a limited supply.

One thing that is limited, however, is time. And every minute you waste resenting someone else’s success is 60 seconds you give away.

3. Look at the big picture.

No one has a perfect life. But, the small snapshot you’re seeing may look more glamorous than it really is—especially if you’re looking at someone’s life on social media. Just because your co-worker earns more money or your neighbor is more attractive, doesn’t mean that person has a charmed life.

Rather than staying focused on someone’s good fortune, zoom out and keep things in proper perspective. You don’t know what hardships someone else may be experiencing. Even if an individual doesn’t appear to be struggling on the outside, you have no idea what sort of mental battles that person may be fighting.

4. Don’t judge what’s fair.

Sometimes, it’s tempting to make generalizations based on what we think is fair in life. She didn’t deserve that raise because she doesn’t work as hard as I do. He doesn’t deserve to have a successful business when he treats his employees like dirt.

The truth is, life isn’t always going to be fair—at least not in the way you view fairness. Insisting you deserve more and someone else deserves less wastes your time and energy. Accept the things you can’t control and focus on being the best version of yourself, without keeping score.

5. Create your own definition of success.

It’s hard to be resentful of someone when you realize they’re not running the same race as you. In fact, you can celebrate their accomplishments when you view life as an opportunity to cooperate, rather than compete.

Write down your definition of success and know your values. Recognize that other people are working on their own accomplishments. Their achievements don’t have to diminish or minimize your own.

Keep your eyes on your own path to success. The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday. Try to become a little better every day and you’ll feel less threatened by other people’s achievements.

5 Step Formula for Success

Why is it that some people seem able to succeed at whatever they put their mind to whilst others set off with gusto and enthusiasm which fizzles out and they give up short of their target?

There are probably several explanations but one might be that the second group are ignoring the formula for success that could be held in their own hand. It can be used to achieve success in any area of life, personal or professional.

This 5 step formula for success is simple, you can count the steps on the fingers of one hand, which may be why so many ignore it. But sometimes there is genius in simplicity.

Know your outcome: Define exactly what it is that you want. Where is it you are going? Be specific, not vague and fuzzy. Know precisely what your ‘desired outcome’ is.

Why do you want it?: Ask yourself how you will benefit from this outcome? What will it give you? What will you gain and what will you move away from?

Take action: Formulate you plan in writing. Break it down into steps. Create your stepping stones and your path to success. Then take courage and take action!

Review and Revise: Is it working? Examine your results. The plan may only succeed in some areas and not in others. How can it be revised to make it better? What needs to be changed to get the results you want?

Adapt your approach: Charles Darwin said, “It is not the strongest of the species that survive, or the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” Rewrite and improve plans as necessary and take alternative actions. Then repeat steps 4 & 5. Make progress by adapting your approach, reviewing and improving your plans and actions. If you stick to this process, you are far more likely to achieve your goal and in the shortest possible time.


Take the time to revisit your goal. Know your desired outcome. What will it look like to you? How will you feel when you have achieved it? What will you be saying to yourself when that day comes? What will it mean for you and those around you?

Wishing you all the success you can hold in your hands…

1. Daily Sun: Success is in your hands

2. Selling Energy: Success is in your own hands

3. Cazbro: Your Success is in Your Hands: A 5 Step Formula for Success

4. Forbes: 5 Ways To Stop Resenting Other People’s Success


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