The Greatest Advice for Young People

10 Things Every 20-Something Needs to Read Right Now.

Are you on the 20 something scratching your head?
Worrying about problems?

Don’t worry about it.

I’m here to remind you that you will get trough it.Let’s face it: We are groomed from child. We are trained to become something we are not.

There is a lot of pressure when we are at this age.

Are you on the 20 something scratching your head?

Worrying about problems?

Don’t worry about it.

I’m here to remind you that you will get trough it.

Let’s face it: We are groomed from child. We are trained to become something we are not. There is a
lot of pressure when we are at this age.

lot of pressure when we are at this age.

Get a job. Get Married. Graduate. Get a Dog.

1. It is Okay to Feel Lost.

Everything is happening at the same time, and we just want to chill. Right?

— “What am I doing right now?”

 — “Where am I heading right now?”

 — “Why I feel like this right now?”

You feel lost because, just maybe, everything you’ve been preparing to do is coming to fruition.

And you don’t want to do it anymore.

But realize that you don’t have to have everything solved,

you are still young and with a lot of life ahead.

Change for Better. 1% everyday is enough.

2. The World Is Not a Fairy Tails Anymore.

Everything is happening at the same time, and we just want to chill. Right?

— “What am I doing right now?”

 — “Where am I heading right now?”

 — “Why I feel like this right now?”

You feel lost because, just maybe, everything you’ve been preparing to do is coming to fruition.

And you don’t want to do it anymore.

But realize that you don’t have to have everything solved,

you are still young and with a lot of life ahead.

Change for Better. 1% everyday is enough.

2. The World Is Not a Fairy Tails Anymore.

You are starting to see the world as it really is.

You are starting to realize that things are not as they seem to be.

And from your research, you realized that most of what we’ve been told is full of lies, used to fuel the matrix system. The 9–5 work to live system.

But it’s okay to have a change of heart.

To reanalyze things, to get a grasp on the whole situation.

What keeps me grounded is to realize that I’m always learning anyways.

Nobody was around when I started to see the truth about the Planet Earth.

Enlightening is knowing how much you don’t know.

Change is the only constant on the universe.

Get used to it, baby.

3. People Come and Go, The Right Ones Always Stay.

When we are at 21 everything is very confusing.

— “What happened to my friends when I was 4 years old?”

As we evolve, we start to meet new people based on how we see the world. Sometimes we hung around people as we hung clothes in the wardrobe.

And it is okay to let go when they no longer serve our higher interests.

4. Food Experimentation is Very Natural

You might been drinking milk, and then you want to try rice milk, coconut milk, almond milk, hazelnut milk, oat milk. Vegan Cheese. Seitan. Tofu.

Just making experiments with your food.

You are never content, and not ever satisfied with a fixed diet. Eating the same mixed eggs with salt and oregano does not satisfy you anymore.

It is key to pick a food diet that works for you. The best way to do this is experimenting. It takes a lot of time to perfect what your body accept most.

Food is the fuel to our life, and the better we eat, the better we become. You don’t know if you can be a vegan until you try it.

I encourage people to do it.

Try The 7 Day Vegan Challenge and see how it is to live without eating those beautiful little cows for a week. You might even be surprised.

5. No Is A Very Important Word.

When we are at 21, everyone wants to pull us to different directions.

Parents want to pull us this way. Friends want to pull us that way. Girlfriend want to pull us in the opposite way, and we want to pull to here and now.

It’s like a total war out there.

No is a important word. When you have the confidence to say no, it’s okay. You know free yourself from the burden of trying to please everyone.

Learn to say no. You are not letting anybody down if you stay true to yourself.

6. It’s Your Life, not Theirs.

This might seem too simple, but it is very important to understand it.

We are living someone else’s life. We are doing everything our parents want. That is why so many people are screwed up on the planet. Because we are listening to it.

But trust yourself. Listen to your heart. Trust your instincts.

Parents? They have opinions.

Friends? They have opinions.

How you feel is hat matters the most. You have to remind yourself that every single day.

7. Straight and simple: It’s Okay To Fail.

Is not the end of the world to get rejected, to make mistakes, to fail.

There are no failures, only stepping stones to help you become your greatest version. You got to go through many of them to lean how to be successful.

If you dind’t get the grade you wanted — who cares?

You still have time! Even tho The Buda said that “the problem is that people think they have time”.

8. Life Would Be Pretty Boring If You Figured All Out.

Sometimes, what I found is that when you don’t know what is going to happen, it’s more exciting.

You don’t need to know what is going to happen tomorrow.

Let go of worrying about the future. Concentrate on being in the here and know and life will be more fulfilling.

We take care of the future when we learn how to take care of the present moment.

9. Get Information From Alternative Sources.

If you are studying in college or somewhere else, get information elsewhere.

You pay for real education with time and energy, not with money.

Just because you are studying something, doesn’t mean you learn it all. There is so much that they don’t teach us. The good news is that you can learn it right now.

Don’t wait until you are 30 to start learning.

10. Where You Are Right Now Does Not Define Where You’ll Always Be.

Don’t let problems shape you. This does not define you.

You can change it up.

The problems are not you, is just a phase. So push forward and keep in mind that you can have pleasant experiences by learning certain lessons.

Nobody is perfect.

It is okay to be mad, to be angry sometimes.

Everybody you see has messed up.

Everybody has been terrified along their journeys.

Your life isn’t perfect and It wasn’t perfect when you were 5.

A beautiful thing is never perfect.

If you are 20-something, you maybe going trough a crazy identity crisis.

The secret to it is that we are not our identity. We are not who we’ve been told.

We are all united, just inspiring each others.

Have a beautiful day.

Reference

Medium.com, Article by Fernando Aguilar

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Want to Truly Make Your Mark on the World? Start by Following These 5 Principles

By Danielle Sacks

C.J. Walker, the daughter of slaves, would not have become the first self-made female millionaire in America had she not traveled around the country training thousands of black women how to apply and sell her hair concoction. Anthropologists would never have had the insights we now know about primates had not a young British woman named Jane Goodall ventured to Africa to develop her own system of communicating with chimpanzees, despite being scoffed at by academics. And Spanx wouldn’t be a staple of millions of women’s wardrobes had Sara Blakely–who sold fax machines door to door at the time–not tried to mass produce a pair of pantyhose she hacked on her way to a party.

These and other iconic stories of fearlessness are chronicled by Jean Case in her new book Be Fearless: 5 Principles for a Life of Breakthroughs and Purpose (Simon & Schuster, 2019). On Saturday, during a lively discussion at the Inc. Founders House in Austin, Case–the chairman of the National Geographic Society and CEO of the Case Foundation, which she started in 1997 with her husband, AOL co-founder Steve Case–discussed why facing fear is critical for anyone looking to make a difference in the world. The Founders House is the inaugural event of Inc.’s Founders Project, an initiative pairing prominent mentors with early-stage entrepreneurs.

The findings revealed in Be Fearless, Case explained, are a result of research her foundation commissioned six years ago to examine the core qualities of change-makers and entrepreneurs. “I’ve traveled to remote villages and big cities, and something you find in all these places is that they have great ideas about how to make the world a better place,” she told interviewer Elizabeth Gore, who runs Alice, an entrepreneur platform in which Case is an investor. “We wondered why some people take those ideas and do something breakthrough, and other people don’t.”

In her remarks, Case outlined the principles entrepreneurs, intrapreneurs, or anyone trying to effect change needs to embrace:

1. Make a big bet

“Don’t aim for incremental change, aim high,” said Case, who joined AOL when only 3 percent of people were online, typically for only one hour a week. “Our goal was to democratize access to ideas and information and communication for everyone.”

2. Be bold, take risks

“It’s impossible to do a breakthrough idea without talking risks,” Case said. “The bottom line is, it never stops.” National Geographic, she explained, is a 131-year-old nonprofit, but “we constantly have to look at where do we go next.” The organization is constantly reinventing itself, she said, pointing to its now 100 million-plus Instagram followers and recent Oscar win for the documentary Free Solo.

3. Make your failures matter

Case revealed that AOL was born out of failure. In its first iteration, she explained, it was a startup that built a brand called AppleLink for Apple. “We weren’t scaling, and Apple called up and said, ‘We want a divorce. We’re ending our partnership,'” she said. “It was an existential moment–a dark, dark moment.” But what emerged from that failure? The small team managed to get a $3 million “divorce settlement” from Apple, which they then used to start building AOL into what it would eventually become.

4. Reach beyond your bubble

“I think we get caught up in a myth in America. We’re enthralled with the idea of the lone genius in the garage,” Case said. “But the fact of the matter is that that’s not how stuff has broken through. It’s broken through with teams.” She pointed to the early days of the tech industry when talent was dispersed around the country, and collaboration between people from all walks of life was necessary. She encouraged new tech founders to return to those roots. “Reaching beyond your bubble means diverse teams break through,” she said. “People with different backgrounds and skill sets. If you’re looking at an opportunity or challenge and you have five ways to look at it versus one, you’ll see each other’s blind spots.”

5. Let urgency conquer fear

“With the pace of change, you constantly have to disrupt yourselves,” Case said, offering Kodak as a cautionary example of a company that neglected to do so. Kodak’s engineers discovered digital photography, she explained, yet the company was too worried it would cannibalize its own film business, which at the time dominated 80 percent of the market. Instead, “others discovered the same thing, ate up their market share, digital totally overtook film, and they filed Chapter 11.” She urged entrepreneurs to make sure the same thing doesn’t happen to them, especially when they get pressure from their boards. “Too much board conversation is based on risk mitigation, not [asking], ‘What risks should we take?'”

This article was first published at Inc

6 Life Lessons We Can Learn from “Missed” Opportunities

Negative circumstances can spark the personal growth and success we deserve.

By Marina Khidekel

Missed opportunities often end up being the course corrections we need in our lives. Many of us have had disappointments — say, rejections from top-choice schools and “dream” jobs — turn out to be the best thing that could have happened in our careers.

Mollie West Duffy, co-author of the book No Hard Feelings, recently told The New York Times about how actively processing our feelings is the crucial first step to reframing negative feelings into positive action when things don’t work out the way we’d initially hoped.

Recalling the instance when was she rejected from her first-choice business school years ago, she told the publication, “I realized that in the process of not getting what I wanted, I had this deep self-reflection about what actually motivated me and what I wanted to do with the rest of my life,” she said. “Looking at the roles that I would’ve had if I had gone to business school, I don’t think I would’ve been happy in them.”

We asked members of the Thrive Global community to share the best lesson they learned from missing out on an opportunity they initially wanted.

A painful breakup can spark renewed love and career success

“My fiancé abruptly broke off our relationship right after we picked a wedding date. I was devastated. However, I moved to New York City, created a whole new career, and eventually met my best friend and husband. The breakup was painful at the time and made me feel very depressed. But that ‘missed’ opportunity led me to a much better life than I’d imagined I’d have.”

—Mim Senft, founder, CEO, Blooming Grove, NY

Listen to your body before you burn out

“My daily life doing senior crime scene investigation in London consisted of being stressed to illness, horrific scenes of the darkness of humanity, and trying to keep a team of 100 people motivated. So I jumped at the chance for a promotion as a way out — but I wish I’d listened to my gut then and resigned. I missed it or was too afraid. I was appointed to an impossibly huge management role, felt even more stressed, and eventually burned out. I knew deep inside that the organisation as a whole wasn’t feeding my soul and I needed creative freedom, space, and no rigid rules. My failure to listen to this cry from within caused me to crash and burn, but that’s what it took for me to quit, start living on my own terms, and create a business that gives joy to both myself and my clients. My body, heart and soul knew what it needed, I just needed to tune in and listen.”

—Lorna Reeves, founder, London, UK

Your destiny is tied to your intuition

“I’ve learned the hard way that my destiny is aligned with my intuition. Over-pursuing opportunities I’ve thought I wanted has resulted in disappointment. When I owned a small business, I was determined to lease a new space in a neighborhood where I was sure my business would thrive. Even when I caught the building owner in a lie and he tried to renegotiate a finalized agreement, I ignored my intuition and signed the lease. The location was a disaster. I’ve learned from this and other experiences that bad things result when I push past my better judgement in pursuit of a goal.”

—Matt Salis, writer, Denver, CO

Reaching out for help can help you redirect to your true purpose

“I remember working so hard to create an online summit — I had a big vision and wanted it to be perfect! I poured my heart and soul into the project, yet at almost every turn I was facing challenge after challenge. I felt absolutely defeated and exhausted. Right before my launch, I had my last five interviews cancel due to circumstances beyond our control and it felt like everything was working against me. I gave up and was about to throw in the towel in defeat when a close friend encouraged me to carry on and remember what I was working to accomplish. Through all the challenges, I’d lost my direction and forgotten what I was working towards. But in an effort to regroup and reach out for help, I spoke with an expert in my field and was able to connect with my purpose in a way that had previously escaped me.”

—Nicole Michalski, life strategist, speaker, and author, Alberta, Canada

Not fitting in can be a blessing in disguise

“As an immigrant, everything from my food choices to my accent made me feel like an outsider in the USA. But eventually after years in the United States, I slowly stopped fitting in back home. This feeling of inadequacy stuck with me throughout my childhood and early adulthood, leaving me feeling unstable and always out of place. After a plethora of sad and hilarious, failed attempts at trying to fit in, I surrendered to the fact that my happiness and sense of security was not dependent on belonging somewhere. Since then, my lack of belonging has become my secret power. I’ve created projects and organizations from the ground up with teams from every continent because I’m able to connect and collaborate with people from all walks of life. Since I don’t have a personal connection to a particular demographic, country, or culture, I’m more willing to meet people where they are, because I’m not attached to where I am.”

—Julie Santos, program strategist, Pala, California

Slow down so you can recognize a good thing

“On a hot southern day in July 1996, I met my future wife. Unfortunately, I was young and wishy-washy, she said, so we drifted apart. But we eventually found each other again many years later, and we’ve been happily married ever since. Here’s a lesson I learned from my youth: slow down and recognize a good thing when you see it — destiny doesn’t always ring twice.”

—Allen Barrett, business manager, Decatur, GA

This article was first published at Thrive Global

The One Word You Should Stop Saying to Boost Your Confidence and Success

By Rebecca Muller

I’m a chronic apologizer. I say sorry profusely — to co-workers, to strangers in the elevator — even to inanimate objects. (Yes, I’ve found myself apologizing to a chair I’ve bumped into, or the garbage bin I’ve knocked over.) Studies have shown that it’s human nature to use apologies as a defense mechanism when we fear social rejection. Research has also indicated that overdoing our apologies makes us seem more timid than we really are and diminishes what we’re trying to express.

But most of us don’t realize that over-apologizing could actually harm our self-confidence.

“Apologies have become our habitual way of communicating,” Maja Jovanovic, Ph.D., sociology professor at McMaster University and author of Hey Ladies, Stop Apologizing and Other Career Mistakes Women Make, recently shared in a TED Talk in Ontario, Canada. (Jovanovic and other experts believe over-apologizing is especially a problem for women, and Amy Schumer even devoted a comedy sketch to it in 2015.) While apologies can be important and powerful when used in the right moments, Jovanovic says, if used as a conversational buffer, they can make us feel less self-assured.

“If you’re beginning and ending your sentences with ‘I’m sorry,’ don’t be surprised if there’s nothing left of your confidence at the end of the day,” she adds. “You’ve given it away with every needless, useless apology.”

Here are three simple ways to stop your unnecessary apologies in their tracks:

Swap “sorry” for “thank you”

Jovanovic points out that we often turn to an apology when we’re running late, voicing our opinion, or when we feel like an imposition. While there’s a proper time and place for apologizing, she urges us to use “thank you” in the moments where an apology is simply not necessary. Reframing your apologies can make you feel and look more confident in what you’re saying, she says in her TED Talk. “Instead of saying, ‘Sorry for complaining’ or ‘Sorry for venting,’ you could just say, ‘Thank you for listening,’ ‘Thank you for being there’ or ‘Thank you for being my friend.’”

Vocalize your actions instead

We tend to say sorry when we don’t feel like our excuse is valid, but Jovanovic says vocalizing the excuse can allow us, and the person we’re talking to, to hear why the apology is unnecessary in the first place. For example, she says that we often apologize for answering a text or email late, but it’s okay to admit that you were busy with another task. “You don’t have to apologize,” she says. “Say, ‘I was working,’ ‘I was reading,’ ‘I was driving.’”

Make others aware of the habit

Jovanovic says she “collects sorry’s,” and finds it helpful to tell her family members and friends when they’re overdoing their apologies as well. “I’ll do it everywhere. I’ll do it in the parking lot, I’ll do it to total strangers at the grocery store, in line somewhere,” she says —and making others conscious of the habit can help open the conversation to those who are unaware. “One hundred percent of the time when I interrupt another woman and say, ‘Why did you just say ‘sorry’ for that?’” Jovanovic notes, “She’ll say to me, ‘I don’t know.’”

This article was first published at Thrive Global

2 Ideas That Could Immediately Improve Your Life

By Azugbene Solomon

Dave Asprey, founder of the Bulletproof Brand and New York Times bestselling author of multiple books, recently released his newest book, Game Changers: What Leaders, Innovators, and Mavericks Do to Win at Life.

It includes a lot of fascinating and useful ideas.

In this post, I’m going to highlight two you can immediately use.

1. Update your environment to change your personal evolution.
Asprey is known for being one of the world’s top biohackers. In the book, he provides the definition:

“That exactly meets the definition of biohacking: changing the environment around you so you have full control of your own biology.”

This quote reminded me of Marshall Goldsmith, who said:

“If we do not create and control our environment, our environment creates and controls us.”

Put simply, human beings are the product of their environment. Some environments are domesticated whereas others are more “natural.” Every environment has different rules and different possibilities for growth and development.

The environment you select determines to a great extent what you evolve into. That, actually, was the concept of Willpower Doesn’t Work, the book I published in 2018.

Here are some of Asprey’s specific recommendations:

  • Get some indoor plants. (Be sure to get organic plants without pesticide on them and control for mold growth in the soil. I use Homebiotic spray, which contains natural soil bacteria that combat indoor fungus.)
  • Go for a hike in nature every time you travel.
  • Let your kids play in the dirt. Better yet, join them.
  • Take a walk in nature once a week. Increase your return by adding community (bring friends!).
  • Eliminate antibacterial cleansers and bleach.
  • Bring potted plants (including dirt!) into your home to benefit from soil bacteria.

2. Gratitude rewires your brain.
According to Asprey, gratitude is stronger than fear. Here’s specifically what he says in Game Changers:

  • Overcoming fear that does not serve you is necessary to access your greatness. Courage works, but it takes a lot of energy to maintain. Save courage for when your life is actually on the line. The rest of the time, use gratitude to turn off fear at the cellular level. Freedom from fear leads to happiness, and happiness is what makes you perform your best at whatever you choose to do.

Throughout the final chapter of the book, Asprey explains with loads of science how gratitude not only rewires your brain but also completely resets your biology. That is biohacking at its finest.

Change your environment to enhance your biology.

Say three things you’re grateful for every night to rewire your brain and reset/upgrade your biology.

This article was first published at Inc

You Can’t Be Confident If You’re Avoiding Things

By Benjamin P. Hardy

How is your confidence doing right now?

Last week while at therapy, my wife told me she felt my confidence has been low lately. The reason, she thought, was because I still hadn’t completed my PhD, even though I am very close.

During that therapy session, Lauren told me to go up to Clemson and finish my degree. She’ll keep home-base taken care of, with the help of her supportive mom, while I’m away.

So I got a rental care and drove 8.5 hours from Orlando where we live up to Clemson, South Carolina. I’m here finishing something I’ve been avoiding for too long.

I’m grateful to have a wife who loves me enough to speak honestly to me and then gives me permission to do what I need to do.

CONFIDENCE, from a scientific perspective, is the byproduct of prior performance. In other words, confidence must be earned. Your confidence is the emotional evidence of what you’ve done and where you’re currently at.

Confidence, then, becomes your foundation.

Without confidence, your imagination is weakened. Having confidence allows you to think bigger about your life.

The more confidence you have, the more imagination and courage you can have. You need both imagination and courage to create a better life.

In order to have real confidence, you not only need to succeed at what you’re doing. You need to COMPLETE things (of course, some things should be dropped).

If you’ve been avoiding things in your life, then you can’t have confidence. Avoidance means you’re living in and dragging the past with you, wherever you go.

Confidence comes from being congruent with yourself. It also comes from completing hard things. As you become increasingly congruent with yourself, and as you complete big stuff, your confidence will soar. This will open your future up in amazing ways.

What are you avoiding?

What must you complete?

How can you become more congruent in your life?

This article was first published at Inc